Here we are again, starting a new year, full of hope and ready to tackle some new year’s resolutions. Many of us will set goals to change something about our behavior. And, as research has shown, 60% of us will fail within 6 months.
Here are the top three reasons why we may find it challenging to stick with our resolutions:
1. Setting unrealistic goals
The best way to set ourselves up for failure is to create a goal that is beyond our reach. In fact, that is how most of us will sabotage ourselves, by choosing a goal, that we know we cannot accomplish within a given time frame. Pick a goal that you can easily reach, so you quickly gain a sense of accomplishment, that will motivate you to do more. If you do the opposite, you end up feeling like a failure and may give up very quickly. Learn to break down larger goals into smaller sub-steps to feel like you are making progress.
3. Negative self talk
Our inner dialogue can be our worst enemy. We say the most cruel things to ourselves. Next time you struggle with goal accomplishment, ask yourself: Do I actually believe that I will get there? Do I believe I can do it? Do I criticize myself for not accomplishing it quickly enough? Examine the thoughts that run through your mind everyday and learn to practice some self compassion.
3. Setting goals that are not meaningful enough
Feelings and passion have a lot of power to propel us into action. If the goal you are trying to tackle does not feel meaningful enough, it will be hard to motivate yourself to stick with it. Find ways to become excited about the final result. Visualize yourself reaching your goal and get in touch with the feelings of satisfaction you will feel. If despite the effort, you are still not excited about it, then maybe it is the wrong goal.